Extracts from Call of the Soul
I DON’T KNOW WHY I’M HERE
When everything you try goes wrong, when every road you expectantly
travel leads to a dead-end or where the relationship that this time
you felt sure was right comes to an acrimonious full-stop you may
question why you bother, why you are here at all.
It is at these moments when you seem to be going nowhere fast that
you must slow down, reflect and be at your most positive. In each of
these periods in your life you confront a potential tipping point where
you decide either to fall deeper into a self-pitying mental abyss or you
decide to use your unique independence of mind, your individual will
and character and, most of all, your belief in yourself to step back
from the brink and move on.
Our lives are not supposed to be an
untroubled, uninterrupted stroll toward broad, sunlit uplands. No-one
has had a life trajectory that hasn’t at one point been cruelly
deflected. Without set-backs we would never self-examine or reflect
or take stock. Without this self-examination we would never grow,
become more confident, or learn as a person. So, appreciate that setbacks
do not happen only to you, they do not question your existence
and yours alone.
If everything you try goes pear-shaped it is not because you are
useless but rather that you are working at the wrong things. If you
keep coming up against dead-ends that exhaust your motivation you
are simply on the wrong road or have taken a wrong turning on the
right one – find your reverse gear and turn around. If relationships
are not working out it may be because, in the absence of any other,
you are trying to put all your life’s meaning into them thereby forcing
issues instead of letting them develop naturally. Or, thankfully you may
simply have saved yourself a basket-full of future grief by off-loading
someone who, for your life journey, is totally unsuited to you.
So, never be despondent or feel worthless if you find yourself at yet
another crossroads, you now have one of the most exciting emotions
known to us all, something we all envy - freedom and opportunity.
Freedom and blessed release from what wasn’t working for you and
exciting opportunities to seek all kinds of possibilities that will. If you
don’t believe me ask anybody stuck in rut what they would desire
most. You have moved from the realm of limited possibility and low
expectation to suddenly having a myriad of exciting choices.
You are here because you are needed. As in nature, you exist because
you have role to play and a skill to contribute. Within us all, whether
in our souls, subconscious or heart, we retain an image of what we
can be, an illustration of the life we can lead. History is littered with
examples of ordinary people whose inner vision has driven them
forward unrestricted or undeterred by set-back or circumstance.
‘Callings’ are not restricted to missionaries, explorers or doctors, we all
have a call from our soul to live out our true purpose. This call of the
soul is the invisible guiding force within us and we should never ignore
it. The Ancient Greeks called it daimon and the Romans had an even
better name for it; genius. This genius is within us all.
You have a duty to yourself to retain your self-esteem not least
because you are a unique creation. We are not simply the result and
mirror of the vagaries of our genes and environment. We have a
wholly individual identity apart from those reference points; we are
what our imaginations and souls tell us we are. We are not products
of places and events nor are we a product of our parents in the sense
that it is inevitable we will be just like them.
All of the above, of
course, are factors that can shape us (if we allow them to) but they
pale into insignificance when compared with the power our individual
minds and souls have to define ourselves. Consider the thought for a
moment that we don’t exist because our parents engaged in sex, but
rather they engaged in sex because of the necessity of bringing us into
existence. You are that important.
‘At the outset we need to make clear that today’s framework for
understanding a human life, the interplay of genetics and environment,
omits something essential – the particularity (that) you feel to be you.’
Action: You are needed, you can offer something, you are part of the
story, there is a reason you are here. Never let external events or other
people steal your sense of self and genius. Listen to the calling of your
soul and enact its message.